The future of various marriages in which the husband enjoys an intense, secret relationship with another woman in Lifeclass this week, Lesley Garner ponders.

By Lesley Garner

7:00AM BST 23 Jun 2009

Dear Lesley

I buy into the advice you gave in your line a couple of weeks ago to Derek, the guy who has got a friendship that is deep an other woman, about which their spouse does not understand. I came across that my husband was having this kind of relationship, which changed into an event. Searching right straight back i possibly could see many evidential clues, but i possibly couldn’t gainsay their denials.

Area of the issue had been that, due to this relationship, he could not assist but withdraw several of himself, and their support, from me personally. We frequently felt which he had been selfish or cool, but could not place my hand on why. As a [...]